Detach!

Sometimes you can be angry for all the wrong reasons. Maybe just a reason. But whatever reasons they may be, it is still silly to be angry for all the wrong reasons. Not that being angry for all the right reasons make it justifiable, but being angry for all the wrong reasons makes you look really stupid.

Sometimes you can help it, sometimes not. For whatever reasons that stand behind that considerably clear conscience of yours to help determine the outcome, you tend to not be able to help it. More often than not.

Sometimes during times like this I wish I can be as 'detachable' from the situation as how Prof. Morrie displayed through Mitch Albom's book Tuesdays with Morrie. In that novel, he stated the reason that human cannot control their emotion is because we are too occupied IN it. We let it run loose. Then when it's all over, we tend to always forget the experiences that has led us through that painful moment, and we will relive it again and again.

The trick, Prof. Morrie said, is to let the emotion at that particular moment be absorbed thoroughly; be it sadness, joy, anxiety and of course anger. Then you have to 'detach' yourself thoroughly from the emotion, by stepping aside and see to the problem and situation as a problem and a situation at that moment. By knowing how to 'detach', he added, you will know how to control emotions and not vice versa.

Note that 'detach' doesn't mean that you shouldn't feel angry, cry, or laugh. It is merely an act after the emotion has consumed your flesh and soul thoroughly, to let yourself think beyond the spark of fury or what not. That way, you will understand emotions.

I just hope my detaching skill doesn't take as long as it took just now. I do not want to see sadness in her eyes.